It might be tempting, but do not hack into his computer to find out whether your guy is seeing other women.
If you suspect your boyfriend is seeing other women on the side, you need to have a thorough discussion with him about your respective commitment levels and expectations. If this does not ease your worries, don't immediately hack into his computer, scour his bank statements or shout outrageous accusations. Instead, stay rational and think logically about how he acts around you and what is truly going on with your relationship. Paying close attention to certain details might tell you all you need to know.
Instructions
1. Look at how he uses his phone. Marriage counselor Gary Neuman says, "Go to cell phone records to find out whether he's very involved with somebody." But you don't need to go that extreme. Ask if you can borrow his phone to make a call, send a text, or write an e-mail, and take note of how readily he offers it to you. If he's hiding something, like texts to other girls, he will be very reluctant to let you play around his phone, in case you might find something not intended for your eyes. Likewise, if he often abruptly cuts calls short when you're around, or ignores calls altogether, he might be hiding something.
2. Pay attention to how he smells, since you might notice traces of other women's perfumes. Sure, your guy might have a few colognes he likes to vary for himself, but if he often smells of different floral, vanilla, or sugary scents, it might indicate that something suspicious is going on. Then again, perhaps he's recently been looking everywhere to find the perfect perfume for you. Don't accuse him of anything just because of a scent, but it is fair to ask him about it.
3. Take note of who he talks about. Does he often talk about female friends you haven't met? Or does he mention one or two women particularly often? Lots of men are friends with women and this is a good, healthy attitude to take towards the opposite sex. But if he brings up certain women noticeably often, he could be having trouble masking his admiration and fondness of them.
4. Think about his schedule and how easy it is to reach him throughout the day. If his schedule suddenly shifts quite dramatically, so that work now seems to extend far too long into the evening or night, for example, or important meetings keep arising, he may be making time for other women. Along the same lines, if it becomes impossible to reach him at certain times that never before proved difficult, it might mean that he's ignoring your calls during a secret rendez-vous.
