For some people, losing weight can be a prolonged battle.
The subject of weight is quite a sensitive one. People who are preoccupied with how heavy they are might be highly aware of how others see them. If they've been overweight since childhood, they might have experienced bullying in school. Therefore, your approach should be sensitive and non-judgmental when you try to talk her into losing weight. Both you and the other person should be sure about your good intentions and your friend should know that you are there to support her, not to judge her, even if she falters in her attempts to lose weight.
Instructions
1. Allow the person to set the pace of the conversation. Do not force the issue, but do listen for cues. If the other person initiates a conversation about weight loss, listen willingly and show interest. Be sensitive about remarks you make to the person. Even telling her that she looks well or has lost weight can be intrusive and can make her feel that this issue is always dominant in the eyes of others.
2. Speak in terms of health when you have a conversation about weight and weight loss. The pressure to look good is present all around and you do not want to dwell on it. According to The Telegraph, advocacy groups for overweight people describe some of the discrimination they face and compare to other types of prejudice, such as racism.
3. Empathize with the person when he is discussing his attempts at losing weight. Offer practical support. Tell him that you will accompany him on some of his exercise ventures, perhaps agreeing to go on a walk with him three times a week. This sort of consistent practical support and companionship can be sustaining for the other person.
4. Have a few conversations before she takes steps for herself. It's going to take more than one conversation. Never let it degenerate into nagging. This will only demotivate your friend and damage your relationship with her.
